About Me...

My name is Melissa Kathryn. I'm 30 years old, born and raised in Montana, and currently reside in the suburbs of Boston, Massachusetts, trying to figure out how the hell I became so domestic so quickly. I share an apartment with my boyfriend, Erich, and our three cats, Colley, Fizzy and Gus (less commonly known as Colorado, Mephista, and Augustus... used when they're being brats).

I am the elder of two children. Both my brother, Scott (born 1978) and I are adopted in closed adoptions. I have knowledge of, but no contact with, my biological parents. My brother does not have any idea about his. We are not biologically related, and because of events during our childhoods, I do not feel close to him. My parents divorced on relatively good terms when I was 14. My father remarried in 1999, and he and my step-mother, Anne, live in Billings, Montana. My mother lives in Easton, Pennsylvania, with her boyfriend, Jim. They are planning to get married in the near future, but have not set a date. From my parents' remarriages, I've gained three new sibs... Jonathan (three years younger than me) and Emily (six years younger), who are Anne's children, and Brett (four years younger), who is Jim's son.

I consider myself to be an eccentric person, and relatively private. Most of my life, I've been a loner, and even today I don't consider myself as having many friends... just several acquaintences. I enjoy the time I spend with the friends that I have, but struggle with social anxiety. Mine happens to come into effect mostly when I'm in larger groups of people. So while I want to spend the time with people, I'm also struggling to keep my anxiety under control all the time. It's a frustrating condition, but I deal with it as best as I can-- and I have a boyfriend who is both understanding and helpful in preventing me from being a hermit.

During the day, I work as an administrative assistant for the design department at one of the large publishing houses in the USA. My company creates and publishes textbooks for 6th through 12th grade. My educational background is in journalism, but I've found that my strengths are more in editing than writing. Unfortunately, since I've been out of school for four years, the technology behind desktop publishing has moved past what I learned, so I had to find a back-door into the publishing industry. I'm hoping to brush up on my skills and eventually get into editing or designing of some sort. For now, though, I'm very happy where I'm at because the environment is the best I've come across since college. I'm still recovering from my old job that had more of an effect on my psyche than I ever could imagine one job could have.

When I have free time, I love to read, listen to music (U2, Billy Joel, Sting, etc.), go out for ethnic food, goof around on my computer, and watch TV. My lifelong hobby is penpalling-- I swear I support at least a couple of postal workers' salaries on my own. I write to other women all over the world, and at last count (although I generally don't keep a count since it fluxuates), I was writing to approximately 90 people. For some reason, though, I can't get into correspondance via email with anyone other than people I know in person. For letters, I still have to write them longhand!

I welcome anyone who wants to write... just drop me an email and we can exchange addresses.

(and if anyone trades fb's, slams, etc... I do those, too.)


I am a religious person, but other than a pendant around my neck, I generally keep my beliefs and opinions about faith to myself, unless specifically asked. I am a practicing eclectic Pagan, believing in both the Goddess and God and their ongoing cycle of balance and counter-balance through the cycles of Nature. I started my path as a Wiccan, but have found my beliefs drifting to a bit less defined as of late. Like Wiccans, I try to uphold the Rede, which states "An' it harm none, do as thou will." A simple eight word phrase to say, but hard to follow, lemme tell ya! As with most other Wiccans, and several other Pagans, I also believe that all faiths are simply individual interpretation of an undefined Truth that's out there. I don't agree with the statement that there is only "one true faith," nor that everyone must follow the one I follow. In fact, I'd rather than more people think for themselves and follow their hearts to find their own individual paths to happiness.